Teen Movies

Fashion, Fashion Business, Life choices, Style, Twenties, Uncategorized

Do you have a copy of Mean Girls saved on a hard drive somewhere that you watch at least every six months? Do you inadvertently choose that feel-good movie of teenage angst over that documentary on Sea Gulls that you know would probably make for better conversation? Well, if you do then you are an eternal optimist, and here’s why.

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(Image Handsome Devil) The subject of most teen movies is often about overcoming hurdles whether it be physical or emotional and often the lead character and friends comes out the other side, a little scathed but the better for it. If you pay close attention, by revisiting these teen movies and their various scenarios you learn something about yourself. You begin to notice how as you grow older you start to roll your eyes when the lead quarterback asks out the nerdy girl, friends are loyal to a fault and you even start to look at your phone when you know the movies nearing a happy ending. Am I wrong?

Most of us have become so averse to the thought of things simply working out that watching it on screen often makes us question the authenticity of the film itself. Now I’m not saying that every teen movie deserves an award or that every one of the scenarios isn’t cringe worthy, but if you’re like me you know why you watch them. They help you imagine a childhood you didn’t have. Schooling in the Middle East followed by high school and university in the region never fulfilled me. Because even though at a point I learned to be outwardly proud of who I am, I never had that it-moment, that teen movie moment where the one person that I liked turned around and said ‘Hey, it’s tough but I love you too.

Mean Girls Movie

(Image Mean Girls) That’s a pattern that’s followed through into my late twenties, I rarely fall but when I do it’s often for the ones that don’t know themselves. Some teen movies still give me that sense of elation that you felt when you saw your crush walk through the door or that moment when you realize being who you are is okay. These movies also serve to diminish our growing sense of doubt and cynicism with their positivity. How many people do you meet today that tell you they still believe in true love? As most of you know a few months back I released #TheLoveProject for my brand Avastave, which showcased people from various walks of life talking about what love means to them which was a learning experience for me. No matter how cynical you are it pays to be aware that love, even in the smallest form can change your very core. Now, when I say love I don’t mean that being single or alone is negative, in fact you could love various other things just as much as you love your partner but, you have to love. Because, love keeps you alive in a time when the world is shrouded in so much fear and doubt.

Wild Child with Emma Roberts

(Image Wild Child) So, if you’re broke at the moment stay in this weekend, pop in a good old teen movie, have a cry, multiple sighs and a lot of laughs and remember to be that kid who believed in love, because that is the person you were before the world forced you to change.

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What’s with the Junk?

Fashion, Life choices, Uncategorized

Take preconceived notions of the perfect family or perfect relationship out of the equation and ask yourself, if sex wasn’t that important, who would you be attracted to? In a time when people are more experimentative than ever, why do our physical compulsions govern what truly holds a relationship together?

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(All imagery Tom Ford ad campaigns through the ages)

There is greater meaning to be found in a stranger’s soul than in their beds. But often times that little voice in our heads is quick to jump the gun between our heart and our loins with the proclamation – Yes, he/she is attractive! It would be a lie to say physical attraction isn’t important, especially when you’re young but with time comes the realization that the finely decorated outer shell can only mask its inhabitant for so long.

If you take a moment to remove the urges of your physical being and see someone, man or woman, is it possible you could learn to love the person within? We are allowed to write our own rules, as witnessed by the rising number of couples that are engaged in Triad-relationships, involving two partners and altogether comprising of three, that make the relationship. We are so stunted by thinking of our future in the standardized and force fed context of the two parent white Pickett fence module, that we have programmed our minds to disprove any alternative way of life.

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How can we proclaim to be a progressive society when we are still holding onto ancient ideologies? Approach life with the simpler notion, that everything has a purpose. Death, life, sex, romance, anger, positive and negative are all part of the same coin. But, to let one just one element of our physical being sculpt the shape of our futures, is truly committing a disservice to ourselves and others. They say sex sells and it does because the act of sex itself is still considered taboo, it panders to our simplest needs and primal urges but leaves everything else in the shadows.

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Men are capable of being friends with women without society demanding they have a sexual past, present or future. Sometimes the best relationships in life come from appreciating the beauty in others that aren’t evident to the rest of the world. Picture yourself seated in a massive cinema with the rest of the world, translucent tubes emanating from your tinted helmets and connected to the large screen that is feeding you all this collated data. Now, take a breath and remove your helmet. What you are feeling is relief, relief in the fact that from here on out you can live and love whomever you choose.