Hermit; typically a person living in solitude for religious purposes and a word often attributed with people who are antisocial. But when we talk about happiness, who does the hermits antisocial behaviour hurt? The hermit himself or the society he lives in? Let’s explore taking recent occurrences as an example.
After two years of working at a leading fashion publication in Dubai, I find myself back at the job distillery; an imagined house of endless possibilities, disappointments and opportunities, a place that most of us will inevitably arrive at when playing the work game. If you have never been here, then I would say it is neither a good or a bad thing, because life is about lessons, and lessons often lead to growth. Growth, my friend is everything. Sidestepping or altogether ignoring the many clues you receive on the road to success is a surefire way to lead a stagnant life, and I don’t believe that is what any of us are after. But, how does the hermit relate to all of this?
Alexander McQueen’s work was often perceived as morbid in the early stages of his career but the beauty of his work shone through to those who saw past the outward design into the intricacy of his ideas.
The hermits state of mind, his happiness and his goals are uninfluenced by the musings and doubts of people who don’t share the same outlook. A person who means well can in some cases do more damage than good; doubt is like a slow-killing poison that spreads through the crystalline waters of your mind to pollute your vision. There is no room for doubt. The hermit knows this, his actions and words are powerful, focused and clear though the perception of his outwardly appearance by society are often misconstrued because people fear what they cannot understand. The natural reaction to losing a job should be outward saddness much like the accepted form of appearance for a grieving widow should be visible sadness or the notion of marriage being solely attributed to a antiquated picture of a man and woman. This is how society has been working for generations. But in a time when we’re questioning everything and finding obvious results, the most pivotal lesson to learn from the hermit is this;
Happiness comes first and foremost from you not from anyone or anything around you.
While I hunt around for a new job, and a new opportunity, it is natural that people who love me will question my outward behaviour. But I am more confident than I have ever been because, I have always had a vision for what my life would become, and I see no sign of that waning because of a small bump on the road.
Alexander McQueen A/W06
How do you tackle everyday as a creative person? Do you have a side project, do you work a fulfilling job – do you paint?? Questions; life is full of them. But the most important questions aren’t the ones that get thrown your way by all those annoying relatives, friends who mean well or even your spouse, they are the questions you ask yourself.
How you start everyday and how you spend every minute of that day is solely in your power. Yes most of us do work day jobs (sometimes not in the most pleasant of circumstances) but what truly gets you through it? I for one have the same dream I’ve had since I was a chubby 5th grader who sketched dresses on is notepad; and you guessed it my dream has always been to be a designer. Though that word itself has quite a bit of muck surrounding it these days. It seems to be the fall back profession for everyone with a golden spoon up their bums but let’s be real, for those of us that toiled away stitching our own grad collections and are still paying off student loans it is a daily struggle. But that’s what will make the rewards that much sweeter no? The thought of knowing that you earned every bit of luxury you will enjoy in the years to come?
For those of you that don’t know I started a small clothing brand called Avastave, and it is my baby – a baby that consistently needs a healthy dosage of cash-flavoured elixir. But, one step at a time. Always remember that you are only in competition with yourself. Marketing schemes and pr agencies should for the most part be left to the large-scale co-operation. In stead focus on building a fan base and a strong brand identity. All of the things I try to do while juggling my career as a fashion writer. Each day that I take the subway train and every car ride or outfit I buy myself with my own money, all of it adds up, it adds up to experiences, minutes, seconds, moments all of which make up 365 days of the year.
Let your life be worth something bigger, allow yourself to dream bigger because no matter where you come from there is always room in this world for the dreamers, the people who have the chops to visualize a better future and then go out there and work everyday for it. You might feel like you aren’t making progress and I’ll be honest some days I sit here like why am I doing this? But you know why, because when you have passion and when you love something it becomes your reality. Always remember that yet another day is a chance to work that much harder for a future that is all the more brighter. D
How funny it is to feel as if you longer relate to the person you use to be? I say ‘funny’ but what I really mean is grown. As anyone in their late twenties can attest to, evolving is a sign of growth and growth; is a sign of success. Coming from a little island country known as Sri Lanka, located just four hours away from Dubai where I’ve grown up and call a ‘home-away-from-home’ its strange to see how my life has changed.
Coming from a middle class background and slowly but surely working on changing that( I still am) I’ve was lucky enough to be able to attend and graduate with honours from the fashion design university of my choice due to the support of my wonderful parents but that was back in 2010. Fast forward to now and not only am I working for a luxury Middle Eastern fashion publication but I’m trying to successfully launch my legacy; my brand, Avastave. For anyone whose known me that is one dream that I have always pursued and so I continue every day, to work towards it. As they say when its your passion, it never really feels like work. Though it is – a lot of work!
I wanted to have a great launch on this new platform but sometimes I thinks its best to keep things simple and play to your strengths and mine clearly isn’t website design, But my thoughts, much like the ones I’d post on my older blog http://www.luvdmi.blogspot.com are my greatest contribution to the online community. To be able to share your experiences and thoughts with others in order to encourage both emotional, spiritual, personal and professional growth is one of the keys to successful living. This blog will be a testament to two things; the power of fashion and our ability to inspire change. I hope you will all join me as I embark on this journey – Dmitri.