Youtube – The Creative’s Future

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Gone are the days of endless posts and countless images, at least for the majority of fashion bloggers. Tap on the links of your favourite ‘influencer’ and chances are their written content is a maximum of 300 words or usually less. We are a visual society. And consume information voraciously; faster than ever before. It is only natural then that bloggers and writers around the globe slowly evolved their technique, a method by which to reach their audience while captivating them in a way that the images and written content did years ago. Enter the millennials favourite video hosting platform; Youtube.

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Denim jacket, ZARA |Polo, Supermart find(yes!) | Jeans and sunglasses, H&M | Trainers, Adidas.

Through Youtube we’ve connected with colourful makeup gurus like Jeffree Star, followed the stylish musings of fashion bloggers like Aimee Song and Gallucks and viewed Chanel couture as if we were sitting front-row with Kirsten Stewart. The possibilities and sense of connectivity Youtube provides birthed a new generation of social media influencer’s, and as such it is time to take lifeandotherstories.com towards the light!

The new vlog will take you on an uncensored journey behind my everyday life, complete with tips on fashion brands to shop, ungendered style, places to dine and the life of a middle-class creative. In all honesty, producing non-written content is going to be tough, as I feel I’m much more myself when I can jot down my thoughts in neat little paragraphs, but I am also a big believer in modernity. Moving forward is imperative to growing, and life is not lived till we challenge ourselves to the fullest. That being said, I hope all of you enjoy the first edition of my vlog. Tap here to view the complete video.

 

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Does It Suit You?

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There’s nothing like seeing a thought provoking suit style to set your sartorial sensibilities ablaze. Here, is a round-up of some suit styles that I’ve come across which are a constant reminder that formal attire needn’t be a bore.

Alexander McQueen: I adore the styling, the pairing of the earring with the hand painted Mughal prints are extraordinary, while the sculpted shoulders ( a signature McQueen look) offer a glow of incomparable regality.

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Tom Ford:I simply can’t get enough of the man’s vision! Bringing sexy-back to suiting is by no means an easy feat and yet Mr.Ford has clearly risen and surpassed the requirements of said challenge. Here an elegant fit, well-proportioned shoulders and a rather unique textile effect on what is presumably jacquard or silk creates a phenomenal evening jacket.

Tom Ford Mens Suit

Ralph Lauren: There’s something rather exquisite about Ralph Lauren’s suit cut that tippy-toes on the fine line between the 1940s and the modern age. The way this sleek suit jacket nips in at the waist framed by the tapered trouser gives me all kinds of glamour. Perfect for weddings and dinners.

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Dolce&Gabbana: While I’d be damned before purchasing anything from the designers whose opinions on the lgbt community and women’s weight have infuriated a vast majority of people ( myself included) it would be total foolery to not acknowledge the immaculate cut of their suits. Appearing in a wide variety of textiles from damask to satin, the designers fit and structure is like no other. This particular number would be perfect for dinner at Nobu or even the Opera? Knowing me It would even work for the super market!

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Balmain: Nicki said it first ‘I make him buy me BALMAIN’, and there’s a reason! Olivier Rousteing does not dress basic whoes* so if you’re looking for conventional – kindly exit the stage. Military details, embellishment, gold and silk. Jackets for everyday and every time!

Balmain mens suit

Formal Attire

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We’re all familiar with the term ‘classic’, i.e a classic suit, classic style, etc. But, what happens when the need to please society interferes with our ability to pioneer our own style?

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(Image: Alexander McQueen) I’m a firm believer in dressing for the occasion, but I am just as keen on dressing for myself. Let me explain, a black-tie occasion is no place for jeans or tank tops, it is to be met with a certain level of class and dignity. However, in recent times all previous notions of what defines class has been called to question, leaving us with a multitude of confused attendees to said events. I think any dress code should be respected and much like wearing shorts and flip-flops to bars or brunches, I’d say opposing this is not only a sign of disrespect but a blatant disregard to the tradition of fine dressing. There’s a fine art in honoring dress codes while standing out of the crowd, and here’s how you do it.

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(Image: Tom Ford) A black-tie affair to me simply means a suit and tie paired with a great pair of shoes. And on receiving news that a rather exciting family wedding will be taking place this October, I walked into my closet and acknowledged ( to feign surprise would be an outright lie) the lack of suits. You see, to me suits always signaled the triumph of convention, and conventional thinking was always associated with the anti-lgbt movement.. ‘a man must dress like a man’ and so on and so forth. Yes, I own informal jackets but that is about it. As I have always stated that sexual orientation shouldn’t play a part in the way we dress, I admit that my initial thought process was a bit hypocritical, though whether I am convinced on my own stance at this point is yet to be determined. The point remains that suits today are not what they were ten or fifteen years ago. In fact today we have the embellished jacquards of McQueen and the slick velveteen’s of Tom Ford and with the removal of any specific laws of dress we are free to choose any of them for any given occasion. The art however is directly linked with your understanding of ‘black tie’ and any other dress code, ‘formal’ for example will always mean good trousers, covered shoes and no T-shirts, yes we occasionally see that one person who appears to have missed the memo but they do carry it off and so can you.

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(Image Tom Ford) You see, working within the context of a black tie theme gives you plenty of room. No one said you have to look all masc-for-masc in your graduation suit or even stuffy in a sad conventional ( I shuddered again) suit + tie combo. Log onto Pinterest or Vogue.com and you’ll see that sleek evening jackets appear in embellished variations, while exaggerated bow-ties have made a significant come back and in my opinion have made ties seem like the joke by example. There’s also a prism of colour to choose from, why do black when lilac silk emphasizes your toned physique so much better? In fashion as in life, the best thing to do when faced with an obstacle is to take a step back and observe it, in this case staying true to yourself while dressing within a formal dress code might be your Rubix cube but observing that it does not, by any means enforce your choice of suit style, accessories or for that matter even colour is  your solution. So, the next time you’re invited to a special black tie affair, have some fun with colour, choose trousers that have a satin stripe down the side paired with pink Gucci loafers and a Saint Laurent tuxedo blazer or go all-out in a head-to-toe in block colour. There’s always a way to stay true to yourself but it often requires a little compromise. So, am I team suits? As of today, I’m fairly excited for my custom Avastave version, that’s for sure.

Teen Movies

Fashion, Fashion Business, Life choices, Style, Twenties, Uncategorized

Do you have a copy of Mean Girls saved on a hard drive somewhere that you watch at least every six months? Do you inadvertently choose that feel-good movie of teenage angst over that documentary on Sea Gulls that you know would probably make for better conversation? Well, if you do then you are an eternal optimist, and here’s why.

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(Image Handsome Devil) The subject of most teen movies is often about overcoming hurdles whether it be physical or emotional and often the lead character and friends comes out the other side, a little scathed but the better for it. If you pay close attention, by revisiting these teen movies and their various scenarios you learn something about yourself. You begin to notice how as you grow older you start to roll your eyes when the lead quarterback asks out the nerdy girl, friends are loyal to a fault and you even start to look at your phone when you know the movies nearing a happy ending. Am I wrong?

Most of us have become so averse to the thought of things simply working out that watching it on screen often makes us question the authenticity of the film itself. Now I’m not saying that every teen movie deserves an award or that every one of the scenarios isn’t cringe worthy, but if you’re like me you know why you watch them. They help you imagine a childhood you didn’t have. Schooling in the Middle East followed by high school and university in the region never fulfilled me. Because even though at a point I learned to be outwardly proud of who I am, I never had that it-moment, that teen movie moment where the one person that I liked turned around and said ‘Hey, it’s tough but I love you too.

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(Image Mean Girls) That’s a pattern that’s followed through into my late twenties, I rarely fall but when I do it’s often for the ones that don’t know themselves. Some teen movies still give me that sense of elation that you felt when you saw your crush walk through the door or that moment when you realize being who you are is okay. These movies also serve to diminish our growing sense of doubt and cynicism with their positivity. How many people do you meet today that tell you they still believe in true love? As most of you know a few months back I released #TheLoveProject for my brand Avastave, which showcased people from various walks of life talking about what love means to them which was a learning experience for me. No matter how cynical you are it pays to be aware that love, even in the smallest form can change your very core. Now, when I say love I don’t mean that being single or alone is negative, in fact you could love various other things just as much as you love your partner but, you have to love. Because, love keeps you alive in a time when the world is shrouded in so much fear and doubt.

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(Image Wild Child) So, if you’re broke at the moment stay in this weekend, pop in a good old teen movie, have a cry, multiple sighs and a lot of laughs and remember to be that kid who believed in love, because that is the person you were before the world forced you to change.

Men like cars, women like dresses, every man must work and every woman must bear children. Rules and stigmas created by a misguided society influenced by a multitude of factors. But in 2017, when so much of what we’ve learned about ourselves has undergone a thorough analysis and caused an avalanche of change, why are some things harder to shake off than others?

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The past two weeks have been a blur. With no day job to encompass my time I’ve taken to hitting the gym full-speed, tiding up the flat and being more attentive to my laundry ( you think clothes in a walk-in clean themselves?) and of course, this blog. I find myself slowly nearing that person who I use to be, one that wasn’t as cynical. Having a full-time job in a place like Dubai is devastatingly exhausting, and attending it often leaves other areas of our lives sparse. But what is the alternative? You certainly can’t pay rent without money and you most certainly can’t get money without a job. Which brings me to my next question, are we as people, so desperate to have a set of rules in our lives that we are willing to sacrifice our happiness for said-rules? Are we so afraid of creating a life that has not been tried on before?

I believe a certain level of discipline goes a long way. But what happens when we are born into a society that dictates a person’s value through the accumulation of possessions, titles, jobs, clothes, etc? We are trained to look down on boyfriends and potential partners who don’t have career goals but are finding an alternative way to live their lives and stay happy. Is that kind of happiness any less-sweeter than the kind that material things bring?

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I recently told someone that ‘Material things aren’t important to me’ to which they masked shock, and said ‘Really, you?!’ to which my response was simple, ‘liking pretty things doesn’t make me materialistic’, I don’t judge people for how they live their lives – or where they live their lives. The prettiest clothes can often mask the ugliest personalities and the most successful humans are often the unhappiest. We are so desperate to distract ourselves from many of the issues in our personal lives that we throw ourselves into work and accumulate things and people that have no real-value, and in the end who does it benefit?

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I believe that success is measured by you. Your success could be raising five kids with a partner that is never at home, or back packing through Europe and waiting tables or even taking night classes to better your English, each is a success within its own right. The choices you make every day to better your life are your successes, not your bank balance. So the next time someone tries to make you feel guilty for travelling your own path be content in the knowledge that you are living this life for you, and much like couture, it only needs to fit your body.

The Age of Distraction

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The Hermit

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Hermit; typically a person living in solitude for religious purposes and a word often attributed with people who are antisocial. But when we talk about happiness, who does the hermits antisocial behaviour hurt? The hermit himself or the society he lives in? Let’s explore taking recent occurrences as an example.

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After two years of working at a leading fashion publication in Dubai, I find myself back at the job distillery; an imagined house of endless possibilities, disappointments and opportunities, a place that most of us will inevitably arrive at when playing the work game. If you have never been here, then I would say it is neither a good or a bad thing, because life is about lessons, and lessons often lead to growth. Growth, my friend is everything. Sidestepping or altogether ignoring the many clues you receive on the road to success is a surefire way to lead a stagnant life, and I don’t believe that is what any of us are after. But, how does the hermit relate to all of this?

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Alexander McQueen’s work was often perceived as morbid in the early stages of his career but the beauty of his work shone through to those who saw past the outward design into the intricacy of his ideas.

The hermits state of mind, his happiness and his goals are uninfluenced by the musings and doubts of people who don’t share the same outlook. A person who means well can in some cases do more damage than good; doubt is like a slow-killing poison that spreads through the crystalline waters of your mind to pollute your vision. There is no room for doubt. The hermit knows this, his actions and words are powerful, focused and clear though the perception of his outwardly appearance by society are often misconstrued because people fear what they cannot understand. The natural reaction to losing a job should be outward saddness much like the accepted form of appearance for a grieving widow should be visible sadness or the notion of marriage being solely attributed to a antiquated picture of a man and woman. This is how society has been working for generations. But in a time when we’re questioning everything and finding obvious results, the most pivotal lesson to learn from the hermit is this;

Happiness comes first and foremost from you not from anyone or anything around you.

While I hunt around for a new job, and a new opportunity, it is natural that people who love me will question my outward behaviour. But I am more confident than I have ever been because, I have always had a vision for what my life would become, and I see no sign of that waning because of a small bump on the road.

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How do you tackle everyday as a creative person? Do you have a side project, do you work a fulfilling job – do you paint?? Questions; life is full of them. But the most important questions aren’t the ones that get thrown your way by all those annoying relatives, friends who mean well or even your spouse, they are the questions you ask yourself.

How you start everyday and how you spend every minute of that day is solely in your power. Yes most of us do work day jobs (sometimes not in the most pleasant of circumstances) but what truly gets you through it? I for one have the same dream I’ve had since I was a chubby 5th grader who sketched dresses on is notepad; and you guessed it my dream has always been to be a designer. Though that word itself has quite a bit of muck surrounding it these days. It seems to be the fall back profession for everyone with a golden spoon up their bums but let’s be real, for those of us that toiled away stitching our own grad collections and are still paying off student loans it is a daily struggle. But that’s what will make the rewards that much sweeter no? The thought of knowing that you earned every bit of luxury you will enjoy in the years to come?

For those of you that don’t know I started a small clothing brand called Avastave, and it is my baby – a baby that consistently needs a healthy dosage of cash-flavoured elixir. But, one step at  a time. Always remember that you are only in competition with yourself. Marketing schemes and pr agencies should for the most part be left to the large-scale co-operation. In stead focus on building a fan base and a strong brand identity. All of the things I try to do while juggling my career as a fashion writer. Each day that I take the subway train and every car ride or outfit I buy myself with my own money, all of it adds up, it adds up to experiences, minutes, seconds, moments all of which make up 365 days of the year.

Let your life be worth something bigger, allow yourself to dream bigger because no matter where you come from there is always room in this world for the dreamers, the people who have the chops to visualize a better future and then go out there and work everyday for it. You might feel like you aren’t making progress and I’ll be honest some days I sit here like why am I doing this? But you know why, because when you have passion and when you love something it becomes your reality. Always remember that yet another day is a chance to work that much harder for a future that is all the more brighter. D

Another Day

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