Take preconceived notions of the perfect family or perfect relationship out of the equation and ask yourself, if sex wasn’t that important, who would you be attracted to? In a time when people are more experimentative than ever, why do our physical compulsions govern what truly holds a relationship together?
(All imagery Tom Ford ad campaigns through the ages)
There is greater meaning to be found in a stranger’s soul than in their beds. But often times that little voice in our heads is quick to jump the gun between our heart and our loins with the proclamation – Yes, he/she is attractive! It would be a lie to say physical attraction isn’t important, especially when you’re young but with time comes the realization that the finely decorated outer shell can only mask its inhabitant for so long.
If you take a moment to remove the urges of your physical being and see someone, man or woman, is it possible you could learn to love the person within? We are allowed to write our own rules, as witnessed by the rising number of couples that are engaged in Triad-relationships, involving two partners and altogether comprising of three, that make the relationship. We are so stunted by thinking of our future in the standardized and force fed context of the two parent white Pickett fence module, that we have programmed our minds to disprove any alternative way of life.
How can we proclaim to be a progressive society when we are still holding onto ancient ideologies? Approach life with the simpler notion, that everything has a purpose. Death, life, sex, romance, anger, positive and negative are all part of the same coin. But, to let one just one element of our physical being sculpt the shape of our futures, is truly committing a disservice to ourselves and others. They say sex sells and it does because the act of sex itself is still considered taboo, it panders to our simplest needs and primal urges but leaves everything else in the shadows.
Men are capable of being friends with women without society demanding they have a sexual past, present or future. Sometimes the best relationships in life come from appreciating the beauty in others that aren’t evident to the rest of the world. Picture yourself seated in a massive cinema with the rest of the world, translucent tubes emanating from your tinted helmets and connected to the large screen that is feeding you all this collated data. Now, take a breath and remove your helmet. What you are feeling is relief, relief in the fact that from here on out you can live and love whomever you choose.